A Simple 3 Part Formula for Happiness at Work

August 29th, 2011

“In order that people may be happy in their work, these three things are needed: They must be fit for it. They must not do too much of it. And they must have a sense of success in it.” –John Ruskin

“They must be fit for it.” In other words finding ways to make the most of your signature strengths at work leads to a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. Signature strengths are the things you like doing and are good at. When people reflect on times when they are utilizing their “signature strengths” (typically defined as their top 5 character strengths as measured by the VIA Survey of Character www.AuthenticHappiness.com ), they often describe an energizing effect.

“They must not do too much of it.” Less is more, even in these nerve wrecking times. Too much work, does not allow for people to take a break, leading multitasking, rapidly switching between complex or demanding tasks actually leads to time lost and the likelihood of more errors in the long run. Multitasking involves   your “Executive functions” and switching between two steps ( Step 1: I am going to do this now  – ‘goal shifting’. Step 2: here are the rules for this – ‘rule activation’) that takes time. Although these switching costs in time may be relatively small, sometimes just a few tenths of a second per switch, they can add up to large amounts when people switch repeatedly back and forth between tasks. Multitasking may seem efficient on the surface but may actually take more time in the end and involve more error.  Too much to do also leads to distress, that is when stress becomes too long, too intense and your ability to function at peak rapidly diminishes.

“And they must have a sense of success in it.” People need to feel like their efforts pay off, that there is a desirable result from their work. That might be learning a new skill that will propel their career forward or increase their marketability. It maybe receiving compensation (salary, a raise or benefits) that makes the work worthwhile. It maybe a simple thank you or other acknowledgement that gives a person that sense of success. Maybe be for you is is being able to take every third Thursday afternoon off to volunteer in a school program.

  • If you are working, for yourself or other, does this formula describe your work life? What simple step or action might increase your happiness factor?
  • If you are the boss, employer, or manager, try applying this formula to your workforce. You might just discover some simple ways to increase the happiness factor at work and a happy workforce is a productive workforce.
                 

A Simple 3 Part Formula for Happiness at Work

August 20th, 2011

“In order that people may be happy in their work, these three things are needed: They must be fit for it. They must not do too much of it. And they must have a sense of success in it.” –John Ruskin

“They must be fit for it.” In other words finding ways to make the most of your signature strengths at work leads to a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. Signature strengths are the things you like doing and are good at. When people reflect on times when they are utilizing their “signature strengths” (typically defined as their top 5 character strengths as measured by the VIA Survey of Character www.AuthenticHappiness.com ), they often describe an energizing effect.

“They must not do too much of it.” Less is more, even in these nerve wrecking times. Too much work, does not allow for people to take a break, leading multitasking, rapidly switching between complex or demanding tasks actually leads to time lost and the likelihood of more errors in the long run. Multitasking involves   your “Executive functions” and switching between two steps ( Step 1: I am going to do this now  – ‘goal shifting’. Step 2: here are the rules for this – ‘rule activation’) that takes time. Although these switching costs in time may be relatively small, sometimes just a few tenths of a second per switch, they can add up to large amounts when people switch repeatedly back and forth between tasks. Multitasking may seem efficient on the surface but may actually take more time in the end and involve more error.  Too much to do also leads to distress, that is when stress becomes too long, too intense and your ability to function at peak rapidly diminishes.

“And they must have a sense of success in it.” People need to feel like their efforts pay off, that there is a desirable result from their work. That might be learning a new skill that will propel their career forward or increase their marketability. It maybe receiving compensation (salary, a raise or benefits) that makes the work worthwhile. It maybe a simple thank you or other acknowledgement that gives a person that sense of success. Maybe be for you is is being able to take every third Thursday afternoon off to volunteer in a school program.

  • If you are working, for yourself or other, does this formula describe your work life? What simple step or action might increase your happiness factor?
  • If you are the boss, employer, or manager, try applying this formula to your workforce. You might just discover some simple ways to increase the happiness factor at work and a happy workforce is a productive workforce.
                 

Happiness is a by-product

June 27th, 2011

“Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.”-Eleanor Roosevelt

Happiness is a wonderful, but fleeting emotion. Of course we want to feel happy- a dopamine release feels just great! But what supports our ability to be profoundly, madly, deeply truly “happy” is flourishing in life.  When you flourish, you are fulfilled , your life is one of deepest joy because a) you feel life is entirely worth living (even the messy bits) and b) you feel you are fulfilling a greater purpose. To flourish I have found there  you need to be crystal clear about 6 things:

  1. Your roles in life
  2. Your priorities
  3. Your core values
  4. Your signature strengths
  5. Your trip-ups
  6. Your refreshers

How are clear are about each these 6 things? Have you stopped to examine each and peel back your assumptions of them?  Are the decisions you make in line with these? Are the actions you take a reflection of these?

                 

Soap for the Soul

June 15th, 2011

What soap is to the body, laughter is to the soul.- Yiddish Proverb

Few things bring laughter quicker than some soap bubbles and five minutes. Got a kid to use for cover, go grab ‘em and breakout the bubble wand. No kids available or willing to be available (“Dad I am too OLD for bubbles.”) go be a kid on your own.  Better yet, go get a friend who could use some laughter and blow bubbles together.

                 

Humor Not Just for Kicks

April 4th, 2011

Humor and laughter can be effective self-care tools. They can improve the function of the body, the mind, and the spirit. Humor and laughter can foster a positive and hopeful attitude and gives us a sense of perspective on our problems.

We are less likely to succumb to feelings of depression and helplessness if we are able to laugh at what is troubling us. Laughter provides an opportunity for the release of uncomfortable emotions which, if held inside, may create biochemical changes that are harmful to the body. Finding humor in a situation and laughing freely with others can be a powerful antidote to stress.

The adrenal gland releases corticosteroids during dress and that elevated levels of these have an immunosuppressive effect. Lee Berk’s research demonstrates that laughter can lower cortisol levels and thereby protect our immune system. Other researchers have supported these findings. We cannot control events in our external world but we have the ability to control how we view these events and the emotional response we choose to have to them.

                 

Thinking Makes You Happy or Unhappy

March 30th, 2011

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”- Dale Carnegie

What are you thinking about today?

                 

Happiness is Underrated

March 28th, 2011

There is a large and growing body of empirical literature shows that people who are happier achieve better life outcomes, including financial success, supportive relationships,good mental health, effective coping, and even good physical health and longevity.  Now that’s some happy news. Moreover, prospective and longitudinal studies show that happiness often precedes and predicts these positive outcomes rather than simply resulting from them.  So happiness or feeling good helps position people for other good things in life.

We are not talking bout the giddy rush of happiness that comes with a new relationship or an awesome new job offer, but rather the profound and deep sense of happiness that could be described as fundamental contentment and gratitude for one’s life. People who experience frequent positive emotions grow more satisfied not simply because they enjoy themselves, but because they build resources that help deal with a wide range of life’s challenges. Improvements in material wealth and living circumstances increase life-satisfaction, also produce relatively few positive emotions.  So money does not buy happiness. It might provide a way to access things that do lead to happiness, but many of life’s pleasures are free. Like the public park in spring, verdant and alive with birds, bugs and people.

While we might want it all, a good living, a comfortable home and to be happy turns out  it is important regularly experience positive motions.  Experiences in life that bring  joy  or interesting are what start the process of exploring, learning, connecting, and ultimately building new resources. Those resources can later improve one’s life, offering up new opportunities for enjoyment and resource building. So go explore, see what you find, you might just discover new resources within like, joy and gratitude.

                 

Insight Is Not Enough

January 31st, 2011

My background is as a clinician, a counselor who worked with all manner of people, in particular people diagnosed with chronic and terminal conditions.  Understandably many of these people were depressed and/or anxious. Others had a history of trauma namely physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse, others were witness to horrific events like shootings.  Still others had disorders like borderline personality, bipolar disorder or schizotypal tendencies. Bottom line few were very happy, especially given the circumstances that brought us in contact diagnosed with chronic and terminal conditions.

Reading a recent article by Richard A. Friedman, MD, in the New York Times, I was struck by his declaration that insight about yourself is only the beginning and not a guarantee for happiness. Yes, Dr. Friedman, I could not agree more. Self-awareness is a fine and necessary attribute to cultivate. It is important to know what we do some things and not others. What motivates us and what does not? This knowledge can help you content with long routed behaviors and conflicts. Mostly likely you’ll feel less emotional pain, but necessarily more happiness.

You have to work for deep-rooted happiness, just as you need to work to foster your self-esteem and self-efficacy. Like Mama always said nothing worth having comes easy.  To enjoy work, do what you like. If you are not in a position to jump up and nab the perfect job, find what you like in your current one and focus on that. Not working to happen for you, well find what you enjoy outside of work and place your attention there.

What makes most people happy in my practice is the pursuit of happiness. The process of living in such a way that our actions at home, work and play are focused towards a greater good, while celebrating the good of now and not ignoring the negative of now too, is key.

                 

The Meaning of Happiness

January 24th, 2011

Happiness has been a frequent topic of conversation among my clients, colleagues, and other partners in crime over the last several weeks. Not surprising, it is the start of a new year and we are all in agreement that we want 2011 to be better than 2010.  Happiness is a foundational notion in America, (see the Constitution). Happiness can be an elusive emotion. Here one moment, poof, gone the next, maddening. What exactly is happiness? And what makes people happy?

(If you have read my blog for a while this next statement will be familiar) Looking at my dictionary “Happiness” is defined as “contentment”. “Contentment” in turn is defined as, “satisfied with what one has”.   “Contentment, being satisfied with what one has” – that is it?!? Sounds different from common synonyms for happiness: pleasure, gladness, and fortunate. Contentment somehow sounds like compliancy, or as if you are settling, which seems an odd theme for a blog written by a Life Coach.  But is it really?

Going back to the idea of happiness as foundational to America, happiness is essential for people to live a virtuous and good life. Specifically the “pursuit of happiness” in life, not the acquisition of everyone each man wants in life. The pursuit, the quest, the working for, the success and failures that happen throughout this pursuit in life are key. It is the process of living in such a way that our actions at home, work and play are focused towards a greater good, while celebrating the good of now and not ignoring the negative of now too.

These actions can be a simple as making your bed in the morning because you like too or Bearing witness to the simple stunning beauty of a mass of birds swelling and condensing across the sky as they seek a set of trees to roost in for the night. These actions can be a grand as putting in the time “to get the job done right.”  For each of us these actions are different as the feeling of happiness. Dante was on to something when wrote, “Take henceforth your pleasure as your guide.” (From the Divine Comedy, the line is Virgil’s parting statement as he leaves Dante about to enter Paradise after traversing Purgatory and Hell). If you live fully, with your eyes open to what difficulties people create for ourselves and how we can address these, you know where happiness, real happiness, lives and  can guide yourself there through this heart-felt and won wisdom.

                 

A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book

November 10th, 2010

“A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book.” -Irish Proverb

I hope you laugh long and hard today then sleep solidly tonight. Especially you Cousin Larry, it’s your Birthday!