People put in long hours sacrificing time with family, friends or personal interests for well-deserved professional accomplishments, and they are justifiably proud of their success. Or something because that is what the job requires. Or that is what someone says you should do. But I have discovered, in talking with people, that something still feels lacking and it is not more money, or a bigger office.
When I talk with busy professionals they say they long for more hours in the days so they can get it ALL in, but we talk more we discover they want one of two things, sometimes both.
- They are yearning to enjoy the real material of their lives as a part of their daily experience now and not some magical day in the future.
- Or they crave to feel in the fiber of their being that their works matters, that it contributes to the greater good and its value is not only in a dollar of amount or a plaque on the wall.
They are ready to get out of the “as soon as trap” of waiting to enjoy life or do meaningful work. One way to get to both desires by doing more the right things, rather than doing the right thing. Doing the right thing means doing what you “should” or “ought to do” because that is what circumstances, your job, someone or society says you need to address. While getting the right things done, means your most keen efforts focus on the tasks, projects, people, hurdles and adventures that are fundamentally aligned with the real materials of your life.
If you want to stop the daily mad scramble to get-it-ALL-done and shift to getting more of the right things done, connect to your BIG WHY. You’ll make better decisions about how and on what you spend your time. Your BIG WHY is that most rich, luminous irresistible vision you have for you work and life -the important things that call from the very fiber of your being. Including the people and things that matter most to you. That support doing your best work. That brings calm and ease to your day. That you enjoy. (For more on your BIG WHY, go here and here.)
If you were not running the daily mad dash how would you describe yourself if you were at your absolute, optional state both personally and professionally?
It is the spark for the practical projects you begin that lead to getting more of the right things done and the actions you make to move those projects forward. By taking on these projects and you create a more fulfilling, invigorating life where you are in control, even in the midst of chaos. It is often the important things that get put on the back burner and seldom if ever tended to. These are your right things to get done and when you pay attention to them it helps move you from chaos to calm by giving yourself permission to enjoy life now.
When you do take time for small moments of enjoyment, you slow down enough to breath, recharge and make decisions about what truly needs to be on your to-do list. When you don’t you can slip into a perpetual state of deprivation and negativity, which becomes a festering drain on your energy and ability to get more of the right things done.
We may not always be able to avoid chaos in life, but we can move through it with our real priorities in mind.