Physical Peace

June 1st, 2011


Working in the garden . . . gives me a profound feeling of inner peace. ~ Ruth Stout

We spend so much more time in our heads these days then we have in the past. Much of our professional, personal and leisure time rely on electronic means; email, the internet, gaming, social media, webcasts. . . It is great. I love to Skype with my family, we live too far apart. Wonderous is the word that comes to mind about how we are able to connect with people across the world, and the new opportunities that provides us all.

But we are still separated and can easily be pulled into a virtual time warp where suddenly hours have gone by and you have not moved from the desk/table/couch and screen. Many others have pointed out how plugged in we are now and like me expressed some ‘concern” (is that the right word, I don’t know, but that is the word that comes to mind) about how connected yet separate we are from each other. Not only might we be separate from other people, losing some particular beauty and nuances of in-person relationships, we become increasingly separated from our physical selves and important ‘still time’ when we are alone with our thoughts.  Being fully engaged with our bodies and our spirits (however you think of your spiritual nature) is as important as cultivating our minds and technical abilities.

For me, digging in the dirt is one key way I ensure time to be physical, as well as ‘still time’ to be with my thoughts. What troubles me. What inspires me. What makes me laugh and cry. To weed out my frustrations and concerns, as well as poison ivy, is a terrific combination. As it transplanting iris from my mother’s and grandmother’s gardens, deepening our connections and spreading our reach across miles and miles.

How you cultivate your physical side, your spiritual side and create a sense of peace?

                 

Daredevil Mom and Superduper Stepmom

May 8th, 2011

No Marvel Comics™ has not put out a new series of crime fighting capers (though I will admit to wanting to see the new film Thor, which probably tells you more about me than you want to know). In honor of Mother’s Day I present my Daredevil Mom and Superduper Stepmom.

Daredevil: 1794 (n.) “recklessly daring person,” from dare (v. to have the boldness to try; venture; hazard) + devil. The devil might refer to the person, or the sense might be “one who dares the devil (cf. scarecrow, cutthroat).*

Superduper: adjective Informal . extremely good, powerful, large, etc.; very super; marvelous or colossal.*

Daredevil Mom who was born bold, strong and full of love. Bucking tradition becoming the first person in her family to go to college. While there majored in science and helped to accidentally integrate the intramural sports and clubs (That’s a whole other story).  Who’s always had or found the boldness to try something that would improve our lives, and increase her experience in the world. Regardless of what society said was proper or how scary it felt. Her most recent adventure is an epic trip out west with her sister and a friend of 42+ years.  Three ladies, a rental car, some maps, traveling from Las Vegas, to the Grand Canyon heading to Yellowstone park-awesome!


Superduper Stepmom who at age 22 had the gust to move in with my Dad and then have two kids show up 2 weeks later for the summer.  After 31 years she’s still here and has never tried to be our mother, we had one. She became our friend, confident and most definitely family. Forging her own place in the world personally and professionally, completing a law degree, then practicing law, eventually becoming a Mom in her own right (giving us a brother) and always speaking her mind, standing up for what and in whom she believes, while never forgetting the importance of play. Here she is flying a kite.


Both of these personal superheros showed me ways to overcome the “bad guys” in life and celebrate and elevate the “good guys”. So Marvel Comics™ if you are looking for inspiration, give me a call and I can tell you more.

*Online Etymology Dictionary. Douglas Harper, Historian. 04 May. 2011.

                 

Love is in the air

February 14th, 2011

Okay it is Valentines Day and I want to talk about love. Love of life, Love of self and embracing your place in the world.  Recently I have come to know a woman who I think embodies this notion.
Nicole Marquez.  Nicole is a dancer/actress who dreamed of performing on Broadway. After graduating from University of Southern Mississippi in 2005, she saved her pennies and two years later moved to the Big Apple, New York City.  Life was everything she hoped, and she was getting auditions. Returning home one evening, after a promising audition Nicole realized she was locked out of her apartment. So what did this spunky woman do? Climb up the airshaft to the open window of her top floor apartment, but, and this is a big but, there was no safety net below. She fell 6 stories to the base of the airshaft.

Her body was shattered, literally. Broken neck, broken pelvis, broken ribs, plus 4 mini-strokes while in IUC- things did not look good. If she survived she’d never walk again. Well let me tell you, Nicole walks, unaided and get this TEACHES Yoga Meets Dance, she is also a choreographer, and motivational speaker.

Nicole decided, once the fog of anesthesia wore off, that You Can’t Stop This Dancer would be her motto.  Life was too precious, her gifts too wonderful to be lost. That loving her self, her abilities, spunk and stubbornness would become tools to recreate her body, life and future.

To learn more about Nicole, follow her continued recovery, please visit Nicole’s blog or follow her on Twitter.

So love yourself, all of you, even the bits that cause you trouble. Embrace life, even the lousy things that come your way- there might just be an extraordinary experience around the bend.

                 

Important Stuff I Learned From Four-Legged and Feathered Creatures

September 27th, 2010

I have been an animal lover all my life and I have been an observer of behavior, interaction-reaction all my life too. So watching the animals that have come through my life, as pets, neighbors, and wildlife encounters and finding lessons for my own l experience seems very natural.  This could be in part due to my Zoology major Mom, who has a small amount of family fame for saving a chicken in one of her college classes, but that is a story for an other day.

  • A different perspective can make all the difference in your day. So do physically change positions to get a better or new view, then figure out what you want to do or not.
  • Keep reaching. You might just get the dang moth fluttering just out of reach.
  • Be persistent, eventually someone is going to pay attention, roll out of the proverbial and not so proverbial bed and help you out.
  • Invite someone to play. It may be just what he or she needed and they did not know it.
  • Cuddling is good, so just reach out, curl up and let the contact begin, it is very life affirming and relaxing too.
  • Take a break. So what if you are in the middle of a very important chase down of that toy mouse, if you need to yawn or clean up for minute, the chase can continue after you are refreshed.
  • Pride in appearance is a good thing. Who doesn’t benefit from a little preening in front of the mirror, especially when you have been molting and need to get used to a new look. Just don’t forget to walk away from mirror or to let others know how fine they look too.
  • Approaching with caution is a fine idea when you are introduced to a new situation or person. Take the time you need to get comfortable, but don’t hide under the bed all day you might just miss an excellent opportunity or dinner.
  • Use all 5 senses to really get the most out of life.
  • Stretch frequently there is nothing like a big long spine stretch to really get you energized.
  • It is not all about you. It is about you and me and what we are going to do with this stick, string, walk, time together…
                 

I dream, therefore I become

September 22nd, 2010

I dream, therefore I become.” ~ Cheryl Renee Grossman

What will you become? What do you dream and what will you strive to make real?

                 

The Future: Yours to Invent

September 20th, 2010

The best way to predict the future is to invent it.” ~ Alan Kay

There is something to be said for deciding what you want more of in your future and doing something about making that desired future happen. Minimally you are more likely to get more of what you want… by getting what you want folks, I am not talking about visualizing a Porsche and having it magically appear paid for in the garage. As much as I love the idea of waving a magic wand and “poof!!!” a desired realized, I have jet to see that be an effect strategy here on earth.

But back to my point here. We can affect our futures. If you are clear about what you want more of and articulate and crystalline, palpable vision for that desired future you are poised to take considered specific action  in service of inventing it. You may not end up with exactly where you though we would, and you hopes may not be met in the way you expect, but its is a whole lot more likely you’ll get closer than you are now.

Why not try buddying up with someone to craft your vision and support you as you decide some specific actions. The power of two can be incredible. You could do this with a trusted friend or colleague who will support you and be honest enough to keep you accountable over the long haul. You could return the favor for her/him. Or you could work with a coach. I know a couple of coaches if you need a referral. Wink-wink.

(Seriously if you are interested in Coaching I would be happy to talk with you, and I would also be happy to make referrals if I am not a good fit for you.)

                 

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes…

August 11th, 2010

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.- Thich Nhat Hanh

Simple, almost banal, but profoundly true. So go ahead and smile. Your face will get a workout. Your “happy hormones” will be triggered. A cloudy will be a bit brighter and a bright day more brilliant.

                 

The kind of beauty I want most is the hard-to-get kind that comes from within – strength, courage, dignity

August 4th, 2010

“The kind of beauty I want most is the hard-to-get kind that comes from within – strength, courage, dignity.” Ruby Dee

Thank you Ms Ruby Dee for this reminder of what constitutes lasting beauty as I contemplate summer bathing suits and the prospect of getting back in to my ballroom dance dresses (Why again did I settle on Latin as my speciality area?).

                 

The key that unlocks energy is desire.

June 2nd, 2010

The key that unlocks energy is desire. It’s also the key to a long and interesting life. If we expect to create any drive, any real force within ourselves, we have to get excited.-Earl Nightingale

If you had a secret wish you could fulfill without regarding to money or people’s opinions, what would you do?

                 

Keep It Moving: I think I can, I think I can…

May 10th, 2010

After starting on a new venture be it a weight loss program, completing professional certification requirements or a home improvement project there comes a time when keeping up the effort to get to the end goal is hard. We get distracted with other obligations in life, the siren call of old habits catch our attention. Change is challenging and a process. So how to keep it moving?

Here are a 4 tips to help you feed your motivation and keep moving forward.

Impact: What do you notice changing? The small changes add up overtime and provide a solid foundation for sustaining desirable change.

Follow through: How do you celebrate your successes?  What you appreciates, appreciates. Start celebrating all your wins, big and small. Writing down a list of week wins is an easy, fast way to do this.

Rhythm: What timing naturally works best for you? As you being to focus more purposely on when change happens for you and how you’ll naturally fall into a rhythm that works best for you.

More: What is it time to invite into life/work now? What is it time to leave behind? Your abilities and boundaries grow as you change; consider these two questions to help further your journey.