Is Humility Holding You Back?

May 6th, 2013

I have client, Paul, who’s bright, ambitious, a family man, entrepreneur, and very down to earth. In fact he is so down to earth and concerned about not coming off like a pompous jerk that he gets in his own way.

Compliment him on doing something well he’s quick to dismiss it.  When negotiating contracts with clients he’s swift to say “here are all the wonderful amazing things that I can do for you but don’t think that makes me a genius or that means I’m any better than you.”

Of course he’s better than his clients at what he does, that’s why they are hiring him.

When Paul says “but my skills and talents don’t make me better than you” he’s not allowing his most defining traits -the ones that make him really good at what he does and who he is- shine on their own. Inadvertently the message he sends is that he’s questioned his abilities and maybe really isn’t sure he’ll be able to deliver on what he’s promised.

But that’s not actually the case.

He’s apologizing for no good reason.

He is trying to downplay his talents and his finely honed skills to relate to other people and make sure everyone eels comfortable.  The idea that someone might see him as better than they are is just too much to bear so he’s quick to qualify his gifts and downplay them, in place of just letting them stand on their own without comment.

The irony is that he’s holding himself in higher esteem than the other person, maybe not in the front of his mind, but in the back of his mind. The very thing he’s trying to avoid.

When your humility turns into halting self-deprecation it stops being a good thing.

 Many people, maybe even you (I know I did), grow up with the message don’t put yourself on a pedestal or don’t get too big for your britches. Not being a self-centered narcissist is a really fine thing. It keeps you grounded and driving. And it helps you to notice what other people bring to the table. But it can lead to holding yourself back because you don’t want to show off or be perceived that you’re showing off.

Paul’s challenge is to simply own and honor his best traits -the ones that makes him who he is at his very best and the very reason people want to hire him- without apologizing for them or being pompous.  He’ll be humble, respectful and at ease and will make others feel at ease too.

If this is ringing a bell for you, maybe you’re holding back when you should not.  Here’s my challenge for you each day this week practice simply spotting your best traits and when you get to use them what happens. Don’t judge what happens as good or bad just simply notice. See what happens. See what you discover.

I’d love to hear about your experiences on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Twitter.

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Deirdre Danahar works creative professional ready to do their best work without sacrificing their quality of life. She is the owner of InMotion Consulting & Coaching, based in Jackson, MS. Reach her at deirdre@inmotioncc.com.

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THE Task of Leadership, Outgrowing Problems

April 4th, 2013

“The greatest and most important problems of life are all in a certain sense insoluble…. They can never be solved, but only outgrown…. This ‘outgrowing’, as I formerly called it, on further experience was seen to consist in a new level of consciousness. Some higher or wider interest arose on the person’s horizon, and through this widening of view, the insoluble problem lost its urgency. It was not solved logically in its own terms, but faded out when confronted with a new and stronger life-tendency.” (Carl Jung, 1931)

Over the past three years I have been working with several groups of professionals in several States to infuse some core Coaching skills and approaches to their work facilitating change and being leaders in their organizations. One of the areas we explore is Appreciative Inquiry. David Cooperrider and his colleagues in the Department of Organizational Behavior at the Weatherhead School of Management, Case Western Reserve University, developed Appreciative Inquiry as a transformational change process for organizations and groups.

Appreciative Inquiry (AI) does not focus on weaknesses and problems to fix. Instead clients are encouraged to acknowledge strengths and imagine possibilities in order to rise above and outgrow their problems.

AI does not hide from the negative but instead asks:

  • What is working?
  • What is missing?
  • What do you want more of?
  • What are you most proud of regarding your work?
  • What is your image of what topic at hand ought to be that is creating the gap between present and what is wanted?
  • What do you know to be true when your work is at its finest and most effective level?

I love the idea of transcending and out growing problems, by working through strengths. To strategically consider what strengths are already in place within both the organization, (business or whole system), and how to best leverage them to make things even better.

Here is some of what I have seen happen by infusing this deliberate attention on what is working:

  • Staff are better able to apply their existing skills and more quickly incorporate new information in a rapidly changing environment.
  • The quality of interactions with colleagues and employees, especially ones my clients supervise, are improved and result in more effective actions.
  • The degree of accountability and follow through by all stakeholders has increased.
  • More quickly able to target areas of concerns and think through them in order to solve them before they become problems.

To be part of helping others develop their ability to effectively lead others by helping to improve the quality of everyone’s thinking is absolutely inspiring. Because I can see Peter Drucker’s statement “…the task of leadership is to create an alignment of strengths in ways that make a system’s weaknesses irrelevant” come to life.

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Deirdre Danahar works with busy, creative, professionals who are looking to shift from what feels chaotic, disjointed or frustrating to a calm productive, spirited life.  People she works with come away knowing how to do their best work without sacrificing their quality of life. She is the owner of InMotion Consulting & Coaching, LLC, based in Jackson, MS. Reach her at deirdre@inmotioncc.com or 601-362-8288.

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Embrace Your Geekdom: A Secret to Success

March 20th, 2013

What I have come to hold as a central tenet in my work is this: Each of us has a spectacular and singular constellation of skills and strengths, experiences and quirks that makes us just a little different from the rest of the crowd. In some way we all have a geek inside us.

The precocious – and precious – part of ourselves that we allow out only when we’re feeling safe or we slip into “unedited” mode.

And I also understand how easy it is to get sucked into a sense of awkwardness and deep uncertainty – even when you are a full-grown, fully functioning and successful adult:

  • You feel like you don’t belong.
    You don’t fit in.
  • You will never be understood and fully accepted.
  • You don’t feel capable of putting the best of who you are and what you do out into the world.
  • You feel wrong because you’re “different” when you are your amazing, unedited self.
  • You begin to think you’ll never get beyond where you are because there is always someone who is better than you.
    You feel inadequate and unprepared, so you keep working on that perpetual “just one more thing” that is going to make you feel sure and secure.

The Answer: Embrace the Geekdom

Embracing the geekdom is you not letting someone dim your light just because it’s shining in their eyes.

 

When we embrace our geekdom we stop struggling against what is not changeable and we stop trying to be someone we are not.

 

We find there is more we can do and that we can do it with less effort.

 

We are not constantly in a mad dash trying to get through a to-do list.

 

We develop a greater sense of mastery over our talents. We can let go of tasks better done by others and put our talents to work on what we are best suited to do.

 

We can nurture what we want to develop more of and mold what we do have to its fullest expression, without apology.

 

We can utter a positive no when we need and a delighted yes when we desire.

 

We create an environment that marries your technical and academic know how with our authentic core self, so you can fashion a life that envelops other priorities, like family, friends and creative pursuits.

 

In short we learn to master the art of making a life while making a living and that benefits everyone we come into contact with.
And that’s what InMotion Consulting is all about – going from chaos to calm, mastering life while making a living, embracing the geekdom.

 

Now let’s talk about you.

What would your life look like if you just embraced your geekdom?

If you’re interested in going deeper, call me for a free, no-strings-attached 30-minute consultation.

Schedule yours now!

 

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Deirdre Danahar works with busy, creative, professionals who are looking to shift from what feels chaotic, disjointed or frustrating to a calm productive, spirited life.  People she works with come away knowing how to do their best work without sacrificing their quality of life. She is the owner of InMotion Consulting & Coaching, LLC, based in Jackson, MS. Reach her at deirdre@inmotioncc.com or 601-362-8288.

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Geek vs. Nerd: Which are You?

March 12th, 2013

Me I am clearly a geek but with some nerd tendencies.*

Why should you care if you are geek or need? No reason other than our sense about “geek” and  “nerd” means changing. And for the better.

These days it is entirely permissible to “geek out” over something that you understand really know and care about. . . cats, cars, cooking, football, or futbol, the decline of grammar, the influence of the blues on contemporary classical guitar in Spain, home-schooling, ballroom dance. . . For most of people there is something you could geek over if you wanted to, but only if you want to.

I hear this shift in the conversations I have with my family, friends, colleagues and clients. One of my friends summed up this emerging shift beautifully:

“We just might be moving into a mind-space where geeks are simply considered interesting, engaging, quirky, super-smart folks who do something extraordinarily well. And are appreciated.” Adel Brown

 

Who does not want to be a valued for what you do well, especially when you are unvarnished?

Claiming your genuine self with all its facets is a wonderful, exciting and dare I say liberating choice.

Before I “embraced my geedom” I always had too many balls up in the air, whether it was completing graduate school while working part time, working multiple jobs after I got my master’s degrees or being the overly loyal friend trying to fit into things that were not mine to fit into.  And that I did not have time for anyway.

The word no seemed to be missing from my vocabulary: I was always available and avoided disappointing anyone.

Embracing  my geekdom meant figuring out what I would say yes to and what I would say no to. What I would think about and how I would let those thoughts influence my actions.

It meant editing my life to focus on what I am best at, what I adore, and making the sometimes hard choices to do the editing and then owning those decisions and consequences.

Consequences like letting go of some relationships that just did not fit any longer so that new ones that did could take root. It meant learning to do new things.  It was a change. Change is always weird and hard, even when you want the change.

Now I know it is possible to be independent and still be compassionately connected to who and what I love, even if the way I am connected changes in some unexpected way. 

Whether you identify of a geek nerd or neither, I hope you revel in what you do well, what you love, and the special twist you bring to the world when you are your unvarnished, unguarded self.

So if you want to know if you are a geek or nerd or some combination of both, look no further than this infographic.*
Geeks vs Nerds
From: MastersInIt.org
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Deirdre Danahar works with busy, creative, professionals who are looking to shift from what feels chaotic, disjointed or frustrating to a calm productive, spirited life.  People she works with come away knowing how to do their best work without sacrificing their quality of life. She is the owner of InMotion Consulting & Coaching, LLC, based in Jackson, MS. Reach her at deirdre@inmotioncc.com or 601-362-8288.

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The Case For Compassion

February 13th, 2013

Over the past several months I have been thinking a lot about compassion.  What is it? Why do we need it? Why is easier for us to be compassionate to others than to ourselves? How to be compassionate?

Why I have been Thinking about Compassion

There are some things that are simply incomprehensible. Things that challenge our hearts and soul to respond with a deep pulsing compassion for our fellow man, woman and child, even when your heart and soul is on the verge of cracking completely.

I am thinking about the horrifying shootings in Aurora, CO and in Newtown, CT. They are on a scale that makes it impossible to ignore the incomprehensible.

Oddly, I know people in both Aurora and Newtown.

What is Compassion

Compassion is your conscious concern for an other person’s experiences or feelings. It gives you the grace and breathing room to both delight in your abilities and those of others. You are understanding when mistakes are made or when there is a set back.  This is very helpful when you realize abilities (yours or other’s) are not what you thought they were, and the results in a mess of some sort.

Why do we need compassion

Compassion affords you the ability to bend not break. To consider how to begin to even gently touch the fragile razored edges of pain that someone is feeling when faced with a heartbreaking, embarrassing or painful experience. To leave space for some love and forgiveness, for an other person or for yourself, if not now, then in the future. To strive to do what we can to prevent such horrors. When they cannot be prevented ameliorate the consequences.

Responding to the pain of these gut-wrenching events with compassion is the only way I know how to respond that feels useful- or at least gives me the stuff I need so I can be useful. Even when it seems like an impossibility for find a reason for compassion.  And I find this true for every other act of violence, including those when you berate yourself up for making a mistake.

How to be Compassionate to Yourself and Others

Its simple. See each person as whole and real. Then find a sense of unconditional warm regard for that person, even when that seems highly unlikely.  Like when you are exasperated, hurt or heartbroken.

I have a friend named James Holmes. But not that James Holmes an other man, with same name and who lives in Aurora, CO.  After the events in Aurora he was inundated with hateful messages. He also received an alarming number of new Facebook friend requests. It was awful for this gentle souled man.

What was his response? “I think people just wanted to reach out and express their feelings and I happen to have the same name.”  That’s compassion.

Here is a link to an interview he gave to a local TV station about his experience.

Compassion is Simple Not Easy

A high school friend of mine has lived in Newtown, CT for the past 10 years. He, his wife and elementary school  aged children are safe and warm. His children, who attend a different school than Sandy Hook Elementary, are physically unharmed. But the loss and  pain for them all are very real- they lost friends and acquaintances.

In response to the shooting he has written about the importance of “seeing each other”.  To really “see” each person. Everyday. Whether you are in the store with a stranger or in your home holding your sweetheart close. To acknowledge and respect one and other, purposefully, so complacency does not lead to taking one and other for granted or worse to dismiss one and other. Instead to witness our respective humanity, our joys, and hope, losses and crushing blows. To take up the chance to actively love one and other because we are all human and to find some way to express this affection to each person everyday.

My friend did this through simply making eye contact and smiling at people in his community on the Friday after the shooting.  Simple, elegant and no-cost.

His thoughts, words and actions I think are so wise and a deeply mature compassionate, fully empathic response to a world of pain. My friend now has a sign up that says “We Are Sandy Hook. We Choose Love.”

What a fine undertaking for all of us, to “see” one and other and find some simple, quiet way to communicate this.

How might you take up this charge for everyday compassion?

  • When you screw up at work?
  • For the kid who is embarrassed by falling on the sidewalk?
  • When some one lets you down?
  • Or when you confront the everyday pains and challenges of living?

If we can be compassionate on a small-scale, we can be compassionate on a large-scale when the time comes.

Be strong. Be loving. Be kind. Be gentle. Be compassionate.

Choose love.

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Deirdre Danahar works with busy, creative, professionals who are looking to shift from what feels chaotic, disjointed or frustrating to a calm productive, spirited life.  People she works with come away knowing how to do their best work without sacrificing their quality of life. She is the owner of InMotion Consulting & Coaching, LLC, based in Jackson, MS. Reach her at deirdre@inmotioncc.com or 601-362-8288.

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Forget Balance Focus on Fulfillment

February 4th, 2013

If work-life balance is on your mind you have a lot of company, 89% of American workers (StrategyOne 2010) say it is a concern for them.

We live in a world where the boundaries between work and home are increasingly becoming blurred.  You likely own a home computer or a smart phone or both. Access to the internet anywhere anytime is very real. As is it’s impact on your sense of work-life balance.

Now the norm is for people to do some work things at home. Like checking your email one more time before going to bed. Or polishing a report at home. If you are an entrepreneur and your phone rings while you are grocery shopping,  and could it be a potential client, do you answer? What if your company issued phone rings at 8 pm on Tuesday while you are helping your kids with homework?

We also do life things at work. You might do some on-line banking or shopping, during your lunch hour.

More people telecommute all or some of the time.

If you are worried about the stability of your job, are the boss, or if your income is directly tied to sales/commissions frankly it can seem miraculous to not focus on work all of the time.

Making a Life While Making a Living

We all wrestle with questions like:

  • “How do I make a satisfying life while I making a living?”
  • “If work is important, but it’s not everything, how do I make time for everything that is important?”

Ultimately what we all want to do is make a life, as well as a living.  You strive to do your best work, without sacrificing your quality of life, but some times you’re just not sure how to make that happen.

So what get sacrificed first when your work life-balance is off kilter? The very things you are likely working for, your family and then your own personal time.

Here’s the rub, you can’t be first rate at work if all you are is work.  Rest and recovery are crucial especially when they feel like exactly the thing you cannot do.  Think of it this way, you can’t keep driving a car without gas, or recharging a battery, or when you are falling asleep the wheel. People are not all that different. We need time too to receiver, recharge and refocus.

If you do not have the necessary resources to operate effectively and efficiently that is not good for business at work or at home.

How Do You Do This

To make a life while making a living must focus on fulfillment, not balance. Or certainly not balance as a static perfect equity of time and effort across all the sectors of your life, work, family, community and yourself. There are simply not enough hours in the day. Nor do the laws of physics allow for this- balance is a dynamic not static state.  Different situations at different times in your life require different combinations of what you do and not do.

To shift to a fulfillment focus, try incorporating the 5 strategies below in to your life.

Don’t get overwhelmed by assuming that you need to make big changes to bring more balance to your life. Start with 1 or 2, give it a week and see what starts to change. Small shifts can have a significant impact, like leaving the office on time or even better early one day next week.

  • Create your list of non-negotiables for your personal life ( e.g.: time at the gym, play dates with your kids,  reading that book you have been meaning to, learning a language or new skill. . .) and then block out time for them in your calendar. You have to hold these times as sacred as you would a doctor’s appointment that you waited 6 months for or a meeting with the boss. Make setting aside time each day for something you enjoy a non-negotiable.
  • Track your time and what you do with it for a week. See where you are spending your time in such a way you are efficient and getting a good return on your investment. See where you are not. Decide what is necessary and what satisfies you the most.
  • Cut the things (or people) that do not satisfy you to the maximum degree that circumstances allow and delegate from there, which may mean giving up some control on some things. Embrace “The Power of a Positive No”. It is okay to respectfully say no. If you are the go to person for EVERYONE in your life, saying no to a request you normally or automatically would say yes to might feel hard, but it can be done.
  • STOP multitasking on the important things. At first glance this seems like an efficient way to work. It is not.  Multitasking on complex task or things that require your full attention involves switching your “executive functions.”  This means  as you shift from one goal to and other (I am going to do this now) and  have to active the rules for the new goal (here are the rules for this). These little shifts of seconds really add up over the course of a day. Multitasking can cost up to 40% of your productive time (Meyer, Evens & Rubenstine, 2001). Focus on one thing at a time, putting your most important priorities first.
  • Cut yourself some slack. You cannot do it all, and do it all well.

 

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Deirdre Danahar works with busy, creative, professionals who are looking to shift from what feels chaotic, disjointed or frustrating to a calm productive, spirited life.  People she works with come away knowing how to do their best work without sacrificing their quality of life. She is the owner of InMotion Consulting & Coaching, LLC, based in Jackson, MS. Reach her at deirdre@inmotioncc.com or 601-362-8288.

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Make Your 2013 Resolutions Work for You

January 9th, 2013

I love a good project how about you?

A good project keeps you engaged and moves you forward. A good project challenges your higher-level skills and builds new ones. When the project is done, or you have done as much as you can, you will be proud regardless of the outcome. Your efforts matter as much as the results.

When you make projects non-negotiable you can cut through the distracting flotsam and jetsam the gathers over the course of time in a busy life. And you know your life is with a capital B Busy.

Let me back up for a minute and tell you what I mean by “projects.“ Projects are the specific, practical things you want to be doing, or have done that relate directly to your vision and intentions and will help you live into the promise their promise of what could be. These types of projects are often called goals.

Personally, I find it more useful and productive to define projects in my strategic planning rather than goals.

Projects unfold over time. You take them step by step. You can always make progress on a project.

You can nestle a series of benchmarks that unfold in a natural sequence to mark progress. If it turns out something is not unfolding in the way you expect it is much easier to adjust at midstream.

Goals you either achieve or you don’t.

3 Must Have Project Types

There are three types of Non-Negotiable projects that I know help people move through the clutter and distractions of busy lives.

An income related professional project to keep your incoming flowing. For example: Taking action to secure new clients or contract; or negotiating a salary agreement.

A growth related professional project designed to expand your skills, experience or strengthen your business, in time it may lead to income.  For example: Taking a course to enhance your skill set or researching opportunities.

A personal project is specific something for just you not related to your work. One way to ensure you are making a life and not just a living is to include a personal project.  For example: Signing up for the Wednesday night pottery class you have been hankering to take for the last 3.5 years.

True success requires all three types of projects described above.

Keep Yourself Focused

One of life’s greatest challenges is to edit out what siphons off your energy, serves as a filler, or distraction so making a project non-negotiable buttresses its importance to you. It is also important to shift through all the projects you might take on and narrow your list down to the one with the most potential for you to get what you most want to feel and experience in 2013.

My recommendation is to brain dump all of the possible projects you could take on in 203 for each of these three types. Then prune. Ask yourself:

  • Of all of these do I believe have the greatest potential to move me forward towards what I really want to feel and experience in 2013?
  • Which of these first do I feel most excited by?
  • If I could only do three things this year (per project type) what would those be?

When you have answered those three questions you have a discrete set of projects to lean into throughout the year.

 

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Make 2013 Goal Free (and still get what you REALLY want)

January 3rd, 2013

Goals I used to loved them. I loved writing them out- ALL of them- at the start of the year.  Bigger! Better! Bolder!

Now, I think setting a bunch of goals is a stinky way to plan for your year.

Don’t get me wrong, I ADORE having focused purposeful goals that stretch you, and find it is crucial to lean into these over time. But that is not enough to have some goals (I call them projects) as free-standing resolutions.

See, what I have come to understand is setting bodacious goals alone all too often sets you up for the to-do list mad dash. That usually leads to increased stress to GET IT ALL DONE, and sting of shame when you don’t. So then you start going forward trying to catch up or worse, charging down the wrong path looking for the wrong things, just so you can say you got something done.  Maybe you avoid pursuing what feels precious to you, therefore extra risky and the idea of failing stops you from moving forward even just a tad.

Why Does This Happen?

It is easy to forget to spell out in vivid terms the underlying reason(s) why you set those goals in the first place. So a couple of years I ago I thought to myself “there has go to be a better way to do this” and experimented for myself before trying out a new approach with my clients.

“How about starting with a foundation that crisply defines what you want to feel and experience in a year?”, I pondered. Once I answered this question I knew what my intention was for what I desired in the New Year. Then was easier and faster to figure out the form and shape of the projects and actions that would lead to those feelings and experiences.

Then What Happens?

This past year was the biggest most successful personally and professionally yet and guess what, it was the year where I set the fewest number and most modest goals I had ever in my professional life. This was a “I could’ve had a V-8” slap-hand-on-forehead-moment of realization for me.

All I did this year was deliberately stay focused on taking consistent steps forward on a handful of projects. Suddenly I was a whole lot less tied up in thoughts of I HAVE GOT TO GET THIS DONE. Things just got done.

When it turned out a project was not really aligned with my why am I doing this answer, I could let it go without shame. This freed me to concentrate my extra resources of time, mental clarity and dare I even say soulful energy into what was leading me forward.

In the end there were few things I needed to let go of.  And I remained inspired over the whole course or the year. A first for me, it can be for you too.

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Time to Hit the Restart Button

December 16th, 2012

A new season is a wonderful time to reboot and refocus. You get to hit a reset button and begin a new year. It is an ideal time to not only reflect on the previous year and make some resolutions for the coming year, but also transform resolution into action.

“Vision without action is a dream. Action without vision is a nightmare.” ~Japanese proverb

A Focused Inspired Plan for the Year

Let’s make sure you have both a glorious and engaging vision, and map out actual actions to take so you transform your ideas into realities.

A solid, practical and inspired plan answers three fundamental questions:

  • What I am doing in 2013?
  • How I am doing it?
  • And most importantly, Why I am doing it?

But here is a twist. Start with the Why, not the What.

What, Why? Where are the Goals?

The answer to “Why am I doing this?” should be a clear unwavering vision of what you crave most ardently and is deeply rooted in the real materials of your life- the people and things that matter to you most- as well as your work. It is the foundational pieces for planning. A strong foundation is essential to develop a plan that works. One that is a promise to live into over time and this promise becomes a reality when you skillfully use the gifts and strengths you already have in service of your why.

The how of what you do in 2013 are the non-negotiable projects to decide to focus on. These projects are the things that drop to the bottom of your to do list with the urgency of daily task management. Or because they feel scary or too large but that if you tackled would really propel you forward.  And yes, some people think of these things as goals. I simply find conceptualizing these as projects leads to greater progress and less stress over the year. (More on that in a future post).

The what you do in 2013 are the regular actions you take to move forward on your projects. It is amazing what you can do in as little as 15 minutes if you devote 15 minutes a day, 5 days a week for 4 weeks.  You spend 5 hours concentrating your efforts on one thing. Imagine what you can make happen with that time.

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So What DO You Want in 2013?

December 14th, 2012

Wow 2012 drawing to a close, the New Year is just around the bend and I’ve been asking myself… What do I really want in 2013?  I ask myself this every year. The answers that bubble-up from way deep down- the ones that whisper as they rise up past my initial, on the surface responses, these answers have always served me well.

For most professionals it is easy to see the surface of what you want. Maybe a stable job, a raise, more clients, a promotion, your long-term project to wrap up . . .

Come January 1, Ta-Da! all those wants become goals you chase and chase, and chase. But to what end?

Maybe you start gung-ho ready to jump into your resolutions and really MAKE THIS THE YEAR when you meet ALL of your goals. Poof it is late February and you are not making the progress you hoped for.June rolls around and you might say “Goals, what goals? I think I had some. “Or you might feel bad about not getting them done.

So what DO you want in 2013?

Stop and ask yourself, really, what do I want?  Wait for the answers beyond the your first response. What bubbles up from deep within you?

If you had more money, a new job, more clients, or whatever it is you’re chasing… what would that give you?

And how about some goals that support you making a life while you make a living? You know those things that align with the real materials of your life, the people, experiences and things that matter most to you and you know drop below the very bottom of your to-do list. Where will they figure into your plan for 2013?

A Gift for You

I want to help you make a plan for your 2013 to be your most inspired, focused, productive and fun year yet.That starts with creating a plan that is firmly rooted in the reason behind why you do what you do and why your resolutions matter.

Follow this link to download a no-cost book excerpt, Getting More of the Right Things Done. The process I describe within will help you dig deep into what you REALLY want in 2013 and how to map out inspired focused goals to help you get those things.

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